Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things to achieve in our hearts and to process depending on what happened to us and the level of pain or damage it was felt and done, it can almost feel impossible to achieve it sometimes, especially right at the beginning when the hurt, damage and offense are still being digested in our emotional and spiritual system and sometimes even physical world.
What the Lord has shown me is that, It takes a lot of wisdom and meditation in him to be able to truly unlock it in our hearts and heal from it.. Many times most people are not being able to let it go because they have a different perspective on what it truly means. They might think that in order to let it go equals going back to the offender or justifying and approve what have been done, which is not true. The truth needs to be known in this situation in order to be truly set free.

(John 8:32) - “and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

Unforgiveness can also include layers of other roots deep down in our system that are also in need of healing and attention, the emotional world can be very complex and such a deep rabbit hole.. It's such a painful subject if not one of the most painful to process. As humans, God created us in his image, programmed our system in his image and to process things once again through HIS IMAGE, unless there's particular cases of empty vessels of satan who have the moral and emotional system backwards to what God designed it to be, but that will be another subject for another day.

(Isaiah 5:20-21) - Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter! Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes, and shrewd in their own sight!

Another thing that God has shown me is that even with trauma, It's an alarming sign in our nature that something unnatural to God's image has been done,  Even in our sinful nature and in a corrupt world, there's an essence in us, the finger print of God our creator that nothing or no one can touch and our bodies cannot help it but to react against that offense and alert us that God's spiritual laws have been broken, It is apart of nature to react, process and feel pain from such events.

It is healthy for us to react, process,  feel it, be angry for a moment, and he cares about what have been done to us, we were created to be loved and to share love to others.

As we all know, God is forgiving and merciful, he forgives us as we go to him in genuine repentance and throws our wicked sinful deeds in the sea of forgiveness while he is the only one in his perfection, glory and power to have all to right to punish us.. This is also something helpful to reflect on when struggling with unforgiveness. In our weakness, we quickly tend forget about this facts, what this concludes is that we are no one to refuse unforgiveness to others when God himself forgave us of our sinful deeds, we don't deserve it, but the unconditional love of God and Jesus sacrifice on the cross saved us from what we truly deserved, What a God to be praised Hallelujah!

(Romans 5:8) - But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

God also wants us to be honest with him, it gives him joy to his heart and it's pleasant to him when we truly open ourselves instead of avoiding or hiding out of fear and other issues, he likes us to be vulnerable with him, he is the safe place where we can tell him all what's truly going on or what we are struggling with without going through the risk of being used against us, he keeps it simple, when we confess to him our sins and struggles, he is all available to deal with everything for us, when we are weak he is strong.

When we open ourselves to forgiveness and tell him that we forgive those who have wronged us, it is a big step that he already justifies, it already means that forgiveness is on the move, he is still interested in walking on a growth journey with us about the subject, the more we allow this journey to take place the more freedom we will experience.

God's healing journey in forgiveness